There are so many types of Mom Guilt that a mother can feel. Because we are women and our brains are like Window browsers with 36 different tabs open, we normally experience mom guilt in more than one way. Mom guilt from not packing the perfect lunch with all food groups and a two page love note. Mom guilt from not throwing the pinterest perfect party. Mom guilt for thousands of other things that we as mothers are faced with, and even judged on daily
Today I am dealing with a bad case of it. As I am sitting here typing, my baby is at home sick (with my hero of a husband) and I am here at work. Last week, I used my sick hours after my wreck & cervical strains so I had no choice but to come in today. Still, that does not help one bit with me feeling like I am in some way doing Asher a disservice. Think I am being dramatic? Well, YES, probably. But that is what mom guilt does to you and all mamas are agreeing with me right now, I bet ya!
Another modern day perpetrator of Mom Guilt is social media…. especially when you scroll on your Instagram timeline and see a mama with the “perfect” body, the 2k handbag, and a stroller that costs about the same as your first car, on a dream vacation about to swim with dolphins. LOL. When we see those, we need to use our own filter and know that’s a small percent of the world’s reality. And honestly, sometimes you just need to hit that unfollow button, I’ve done it!
My best advice for a case of mom guilt, is playing with your child, talking with them. They don’t give a flying feather about what you’re worried about 99% of the time. Most of the areas where you try to be a “perfect” mother, is honestly more for yourself than your babe. Example, I went way overboard on Asher’s FIRST birthday and rented a ginormous baseball bouncy house.. that he won’t even remember. In some way I felt that I was giving Asher the best by having all these extravagant activities and decorations when he, in reality, was his happiest when his daddy and I were singing him Happy Birthday and blowing out his candle with him.
So tonight, I’ll be rushing home from work and snuggling my baby until we fall asleep, and then I wake up three hours later to realize that my contacts are still in and I didn’t take my makeup off. THAT IS LIFE YALL. Those moments when you forget about what you should be, or should look like, or should have, are the moments your babe will remember. SCREW MOM GUILT. You are beautiful and doing the best you can, and your little one adores you for that.
I have compiled a few pictures of our little family that bring me the most joy, where we were swept up in the moment and focused on each other!